SRT: UNMASK MINEFIELDS
The awful irony of INCORRECT MINDSETS is they often accomplish exactly the OPPOSITE of what you seek based upon a faulty lens that limits
your options rather than moving forward.
The SRT WAY promotes POSITIVITY.
10 DOOMING MINDSETS
1. IT’S A MAD, MAD, MAD WORLD: “Often I feel people are angry with me and I react! .THE SRT WAY teaches how to hear correctly, and express real anger safely and productively.
2. PERSONALIZATION: “I take all criticism personally.” The SRT WAY teaches IDENTIFYING the real issues without presuming self-blame, increasing confidence using OT or Optional Thinking.
3. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: “I expect people to “know” and “share” my beliefs, thoughts.” THE SRT WAY teaches others are not mind-readers. Negotiate fairly and stop expecting psychics.
4. CATASTROPHIZING: “I hyper-react/expect catastrophe”: Even little things that go wrong become catastrophic or huge. THE SRT WAY. SRT teaches managing problems proportionally .
5. ESTEEM DEMON: “I’m not good enough. I don’t deserve happiness:”. THE SRT WAY teaches how to lose those INCORRECT BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES and will help prove and believe it.
6. ABSOLUTISM: “I Believe There’s Only One Absolute Right/Wrong. Mine” There’s no debate. THE SRT WAY teaches respecting other opinions and claiming when you’re wrong.
7. PERFECTIONISM – “THE BEST”: “Imperfect is not acceptable. THE SRT WAY teaches that there is no ‘best.’ To expect it will make us feel miserable. SRT teaches OVERALL SELF-ACCEPTANCE.
8. MEASURE ME ‘SUCCESSFUL’”: “My goal is success! No matter how or what it takes. No mistakes allowed.” THE SRT WAY is determination and seeing failure as a learning experience.
9. APPEARANCES MATTER HUGELY: “Everyone else is better than me and can judge me.” THE SRT WAY teaches you to value you more than others and set your own standards.
10. YOU ARE WHAT YOU ARE. PEOPLE DON’T CHANGE: “Change is impossible.” Some of us feel that we are prisoners of our DNA, brain function, hormones, experience/personality.
THE SRT WAY teaches that Change is absolutely possible, in fact, neuropsychologists now claim that through neuroplasticity, the brain learns, adjusts and yes, changes.
CHANGE IS UP TO YOU! IT TAKES GUTS. IT TAKES COMMITMENT. ONCE ACCOMPLISHED, YOU WILL SEE MAJOR SRT SHIFTS IN THINKING.
BUT IT’S WORTH IT TO ACHIEVE ULTIMATE MATURITY: Developing STRATEGIC RELATIONSHIP THINKING requires intentional sequential evolution in how we think, feel, and react to reach Strategic Maturity. When accomplished, difficult emotions and circumstances are manageable and our view of ourselves, our partners, and others are based on Reality and Positivity. Together we can achieve the SRT-5: CONFIDENCE,” “PURPOSE,” “FREEDOM,” “GROWTH,” “PEACE” ON OUR WAY TO A JOYOUS LIFE AND LEGACY.